A Letter To My Baby Nephew

My nephew is just a baby and recently my sister, mum and I decided to do something for him for the future. We decided to write him a letter that he might be intrigued with when he’s a bit older. Rather than a traditional letter I thought it might be interesting to share some insights. Here are the five insights I shared in his letter.

Accept People the Way They Are

It’s so easy to look at someone and see their faults. However take an effort to see who they really are and what they’re really doing in their world. Acknowledge them for what they’re striving to do. People are living the best way they can with the skills, knowledge and resources they have. They seek your love and acknowledgement not your judgement. Tell them something that you admire about them.

Life Can be Tough

There is no such thing as a perfect, happy life. Life doesn’t happen like that. It can feel rubbish. There are times when it feels exciting and you feel confident. There are other times when it feels depressing and you want to hide. Don’t argue against the cards that life has dealt you. If you argue against life, the only person you upset is yourself.

Listen

Take time to really listen and hear what someone is saying. It can be so tempting to jump in and try and ‘fix’ or find a solution. Don’t do that. Just listen. Try and listen beyond their words, what emotions are they feeling? Let them know you are listening to them. When someone feels truly listened to then they are able to move on and rediscover their inner confidence and wisdom

Everyone is Right

If you’ve ever felt angry and fed up that people are wrong, then think again. Everyone is right. What do I mean by that? I mean that everyone is right in their world. According to the world that they’ve been brought up in, their values and their experiences they are right. It might be that they will change their mind if they can see a different perspective; however they won’t see that perspective by being told they are wrong. When you can give up being ‘right’ that’s when you find inner peace.

Don’t Wait to be Invited

If you find yourself on the side lines and everyone else seems to be having a good time, then don’t wait to be asked to join the fun. Invite yourself or make up your own fun.

What would you write?

I had a bit of fun trying to distill some thoughts and ideas. If you were going to write a letter to a loved one in the future, what five things would you include to help them on their journey?